Mistletoe is a holiday tradition around this time of year. But before you pucker up, think about what a kiss means to you.
Should it mean anything at all?
What do you think about waiting until marriage to kiss that particular person?
I first got the idea while watching a talk show as a kid.
The guest on the show talked about how she waited until she was married before she ever kissed her guy. I don’t think this was an ethical decision, but was more about being sure that she was with him for the right reasons.
I was so impressed with the idea; I adopted it for myself.
Waiting until after marriage to have a physical relationship may lead to a stronger friendship going into the wedding.
I want to have a strong bond with the man that I marry, and I want us to feel like we truly know each other. I don’t want to be distracted by lust, or by a giddy feeling that I get when we kiss.
It also relieves concerns about how physical we are going to be, and where we should draw the line before going too far. If we want to keep our relationship holy before God, we shouldn’t play with fire.
I won’t have to worry about whether I crossed a line if I just hold off on having a physical relationship until after we are married.
What are your thoughts on this?
In a world where abstaining from sex until marriage sounds insane to some, do you think that this idea is taking things too far?
Please keep the scripture below, Song of Solomen 2:7, in mind while mulling over this. It mentions women, but this affects men too.
Promise me, O women of Jerusalem, by the gazelles and wild deer, not to awaken love until the time is right. (English Standard Version)
Gazelles? Wild deer? Maybe this is how that culture swore oaths back then. The point is that some physical contact ignites a tempting fire that you won’t want to put out. Why start a physical relationship if your goal is to wait until after the wedding before you have sex?
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