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I found this great site that talks about sexual purity at moralrevolution.com. Here’s a helpful post from the website about managing your sex drive: How Do You Manage Your Sex Drive Without….You Know?
If you’re trying to avoid the pitfalls of any addiction, but more specifically sexual habits, that post may help shed some light.
The article talks about the importance of identifying the underlying issue that is driving you toward the addiction. Once you can pinpoint the unfulfilled need (this need doesn’t have to be sex), then you can start working towards healthy ways of finding fulfillment.
One main point of the article is that you can’t expect to live addiction free while doing life alone. People that you can depend on and confide in are very necessary for maintaining a healthy and happy life.
As an introvert, I often have no idea where to find these essential people. During Freshman Orientation in high school, I spoke up and commented that you have to find all of the right friends before they are gone. (What shy person stands in a room full of people and voices fears of being friendless in high school?)
The band teacher answered my panicked plea to find good peeps by saying, “You don’t have to look for friends. Good friends come to you.” Was he a sage secretly poised as a band teacher, hoping to sprinkle bits of wisdom onto the new susceptible sponges of City High? Nope.
Experience has taught me that you can’t be passive with building meaningful relationships. Pray a lot about finding good friends, be a good friend to others, and join a life/cell/small/whatever-they-call-it-now group at your local church. You can also use sites like meetup.com to find people with common interests.
That sounds like an excellent way to get started, but you will probably need to take things a few steps further since meeting up once every couple of weeks isn’t enough for most people.
You’re not alone out there in your struggle. There’s hope for you.
The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure. (New Living Translation) 1 Corinthians 10:13